In this series we talk about real life situations that occur, and how you would react to them. The goal is to be able to open up, share about difficult topics, and prepare our hearts and minds for how to deal with them – always keeping scripture at the forefront of our hearts.
Last month in this series we talked about forgiveness. I pray you’ll continue to find these posts to be helpful and practical – something that you can relate to in real life for your spiritual growth. OK so let’s get to it.
Today, can we talk about how to deal anger?
I watched a youtube video last week that really got me upset. This happened years ago, but I only just found out about it. Isreal’s government admitted that they forced sterilization on Ethiopian Jewish women. They required these women to take birth control in order to gain access to the state of Israel. And not just any old birth control either. It was a super strong contraceptive drug with powerful side effects – Watch the super short 4 min video below to find out more.
When I first saw the video above, I can honestly say, I got angry.
The report in that video reminded me of the scripture story in Exodus 1, when the midwives were told to kill off the Hebrew baby boys because the Hebrew people were becoming too numerous. This idea of depopulation or “planned parenting” as they like to call it, is something that truly makes me feel very upset. In my opinion, it’s a brainwashing mind game, and a curse on our people even to this day. And then to hear that African people are viewed as a cancer? And that the majority of Israeli’s support violence against them?
So here comes the big question… If the situation that we saw in the video above happened to you, what would YOU do? If the government gave you and your people a strong contraceptive drug that literally made you sterile, then lied to you – telling you that you were required to take it, not only once, but every three months, how would you feel when you found out the truth? What would you do?
Any person with a heart beat would probably feel angry, frustrated, and confused. But how would you handle the pain? Would you protest? Or would you silently internalize the emotion, feeling helpless and perhaps even fearful because of all the messy politics involved. If you can put yourself in these women’s shoes even just for a moment, leave a comment on this blog post and share your thoughts below.
We may not be able to do anything to make a true impact on what happened to our Ethiopian sisters, and physically we may be far removed from the reality of what they experienced. But if you’ve ever been victimized, or in a situation where you feel like something very personal, or priceless, was taken from you without your full consent – I’m sure you can imagine how you might react.
Before you share your thoughts in the comments, let’s take a quick look at what the scriptures say about anger?
Hmmm. That’s quite a tall order, no? Be angry but do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your rage… Do you think that’s realistic? How can we actually be expected to do this?
If we believe the scripture is true and written for us, and not against us, let’s take a deeper look because there must be more. Maybe the verse that follows the one we just read can give some further insight…
“Be angry but do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your rage, nor give place to the devil.“ Ephesians 4:26, 27.
Is there a connection between letting the sun go down on your rage and giving place to the devil? Even if we are justified in being angry, can working through the emotion and pain that occurrs in our daily lives prevent the adversary from setting up camp in our hearts? I wonder how much sweeter our sleep would be if we, as much as possible, tried to resolve our issues before going to bed on a regular basis. Is that unrealistic? Leave a comment below and let me know what you think.
Whether you agree in theory with Ephesians 4:26,27 or not, the reality is, it’s easier to TALK about how to deal with anger than to actually deal with it. So HOW does one actually deal with anger?
Sometimes as great as the injustice may be, we simply have to choose to let it go. What good will it do us to hold on to the pain that anger causes anyway?
Yahuah says “Vengeance is Mine.” We find these words in Deuteronomy 32:35 and in Romans 12:19. So if Yahuah makes it clear that He is going to have our backs, do we need to lash out when we are angry in order to deal with the pain?
So once again we’re back at forgiveness. Guess we can’t get away from that concept just yet. I know it’s easier said than done when we are in the midst of our emotional state, but what would happen if we chose to take the time to breath… and let the anger not only spiritually dissolve in Yahuah’s hands, but also let it physically run through us in a way that isn’t harmful or violent. Perhaps through doing some sort of creative expression like playing an instrument, writing music or poetry, dance, exercise, or even just punching a pillow, we could come to the place where we could live outside of our anger instead of letting our anger live inside of us. Perhaps we could even use that same emotional charge to fuel a project that could be used for the greater good.
So in all the pain and anger that we feel, let’s remember who we are and WHOSE we are. We need to continue to believe that there is a bigger plan at work than what we see before us now. If we live our lives in anger, how will we grow? And how will we show the truth in love to those who need it the most?
Anger is real. It happens to all of us. So tell me in the comments below, what would you do? How do you deal with anger? I’d love to hear your thoughts, ideas, or scriptures on how to deal with anger below. Let’s talk. And if you know someone who would benefit from reading this post – don’t hesitate to share.
I’ll see you in the comments.